This week an article in the NYTimes caught my attention as it was titled, “Losing the fight against Dad's Bod.”
So, I read it with some curiosity, as I've always naturally assumed that women suffered more with both internal and external judgments around body issues.
After reading it twice, I thought, well, I still think women have a far more universally rigid standard for what a “mom bod” should look like. but from these particular men's comments, I can see damage is done to all genders when the specter of being considered “fat” is possible. In this particular article, if all numbers are to be believed, these folks were not fat by any conventional definition but regarded their 5 -15 extra pounds in the way someone else might regard 60 extra pounds. They resolutely would never call themselves fat, almost to a point, that when I finished reading the article I thought, the male version of the Shakespearian line, “The Lady Doth Protest Too Much”.
Despite being, in objective terms, not fat, in their assessment of themselves, they seem to suffer as if they were. So much so that they wanted to distance themselves from the word “fat” so they could look at their tangle of feelings as if it was a meditation on much larger issues rather than simply feeling fat.
I like this episode because although I was rolling my eyes at first at some of these stories, I came round to realizing that I had more in common with them than I thought.
Always a good thing in the world we live in, don't you think?
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